Mindful Drinking & Moderation in Midlife: How to Drink Less, On Your Terms
**A Spotify 'Rising Star' show** How do I drink less without quitting completely? What's the difference between low, no and light alcohol drinks? Why can't I drink like I used to? Why do alcohol-free drinks cost so much?
If you're in your 30s, 40s, 50s or beyond and asking these questions, this is your podcast.
Welcome to the essential show for midlife adults who want to drink less, on their own terms—without the pressure to quit completely, follow rigid rules, or label themselves as sober.
I'm Denise Hamilton-Mace, your mindful drinking mentor, magazine editor, writer and public speaker on all things low, no and light. Each week, I help stressed parents and busy midlife adults navigate their relationship with alcohol through practical approaches grounded in real-world experience and behaviour change strategy, not willpower or wellness culture
What you'll get:
Mindful Moderation Solo Episodes – Deep-dives answering the questions that matter to sophisticated drinkers who want to moderate smartly:
- How do I cut back when my partner still drinks at home?
- Why do premium alcohol-free drinks cost the same as full-strength versions?
- How do I navigate social situations when I'm the only one moderating?
- What really works: willpower vs. strategy?
Drinks 101 Mini-Series – Short educational episodes demystifying the confusing world of low and no alcohol drinks:
- What does ABV actually mean?
- What's the real difference between non-alcoholic, alcohol-free, low alcohol, and light beer?
- How are alcohol-free drinks made?
- Which drinks are safe for pregnancy, driving, or recovery?
Meet the Makers – Intimate conversations with the founders, brewers, distillers, and visionaries creating the premium drinks and experiences that support your moderation goals.
This podcast is for you if:
- You want drinks that taste like the ones you already love
- You're looking for practical advice that fits your demanding life, not another wellness overhaul
- You recognise that coasting with mid-strength drinks, zebra-striping, or bookending your evening with something non-alcoholic are all valid strategies
- You want better mornings without giving up celebrating life's special moments
This isn't about going completely dry or reinventing yourself. It's about keeping energy for what matters most: family, health, career, and living life on your own terms.
Join the moderation revolution happening in midlife – because while Gen Z gets the headlines, you're the one actually doing it.
Mindful Drinking & Moderation in Midlife: How to Drink Less, On Your Terms
Mindful Drinking Advent 8: Your Moderation Techniques for December
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On Day Eight of the Mindful Drinking Advent, we unpack the practical side of moderation — the techniques that help you drink less without relying on willpower alone.
This episode explains the difference between active and passive moderation, and breaks down four simple techniques you can use during the festive season: zebra striping, bookending, coasting, and pacing.
If you're not going fully alcohol-free but want to feel more in control this December, this toolkit gives you structure, strategy, and genuine choice.
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Welcome to day eight of your mindful drinking audio advent. Today we are looking at your moderation toolkit. So I know this can be a hot button issue for some people, but moderation isn't about willpower alone. It's about knowing what you want from your experience, from your life in general, and being able to make decisions about the best way for you to get it. Now, I have uh released an episode for you just a couple of weeks ago about willpower and why that's not enough to get you through Christmas by itself, and it's about changing your belief system around where and how alcohol fits into your life. In terms of moderating, I see it in two different ways, two clear types of moderating. There is passive moderation and active moderation. Active moderation is things like dry January, sober October, and some of the techniques that we're going to look at below. Passive moderation is the next level. That's when you have come to accept that alcohol is no longer serving you the way that it used to. And your choices to drink are based far more on an understanding of what it is that you are achieving with your life rather than a choice in the moment about whether or not you allow yourself to have this drink. But that is a place that we have to get to. If you do want to dive deeper on this, because it's a very big and important topic, I do cover it more fully inside the four-week midlife mindful drinking reset. So that's ready for you whenever you want to dive deeper, and you can click the link in the show notes to find out more about how you can participate in that. It could be a great option for you for January if you're not necessarily going to do a fully dry January, but you do want to change the way you drink and start the year off on your own terms. But some of the techniques that a lot of people are looking at include things like zebra striping. So zebra striping is alternating between a full strength drink and a low or no strength drink all night long. So you are switching back and forth between full strength alcohol and low no drinks. This is a great option if you are only having a couple of drinks because obviously as the night goes on, you might start to lose track of where you are, but it's a great way to halve your alcohol intake. Another option is what's known as bookending, and bookending is starting and ending your evening with an alcohol-free drink and consuming alcohol-full drinks in between. Now, uh, bookending is an interesting one. I I think it's a great idea if you're only having, say, three or four drinks in total on your night out. But if you start with an alcohol-free drink and then have eight pints and then you end with an alcohol-free drink, you're not really going to notice any benefit. So don't think that it suddenly just undoes everything if you have one AF drink at the end of a bender. The next one is coasting. Uh, coasting is a slightly newer term that you might not have heard many times before, uh, and that is choosing light or mid-strength alcohol drinks throughout your evening. Now, this is a great option, I think, because it um allows you to just make one choice. And the choice is uh I'm having this mid-strength gin or this mid-strength wine throughout the evening. You don't have to keep track of what your last drink was or what you're going to have next, and you will automatically cut your alcohol intake in half. Um, the only thing to be wary of here is that because we're not quite used to mid-strength drinks just yet, you might struggle to know exactly how much you've had. So, of course, if you're driving or you have to do something that's really important and requires clarity, then I don't recommend that for you. And then one other technique that you could look at is pacing. And so, pacing is consuming only one alcoholic drink per hour and the rest of the time having alcohol-free or low-no drinks. The reason why this works is because generally the human body can process one unit of alcohol per hour. And so, as long as you are having relatively light drinks, um, then you should be able to process the majority of the alcohol that you've consumed before you start taking in your next drink. Like I said, I do go into these in far more detail inside the four-week midlife mindful drinking reset. Um, if you've opened today's day on your advent calendar, you will see a selection of mid strength drinks that I personally recommend. I've tried all of these. Uh, there are some spirits, beers, and wines. Um, so I want you to give them a try, and I'd love to know what you think. Uh, I will see you tomorrow for day nine, and until then, cheers to a Christmas less intoxicated.